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It can suck in old age, hopefully you keel over before your crawling on all fours or have lost your marbles, the entire sum of your life reduced to an echo. Go quick, don’t linger.
What brought this on? I’m currently providing moral support to my 96-year-old father who seems to be slipping fast, but not fast enough, at least not from his perspective. In his words, if I wasn’t such a coward, I’d go out back and eat a bullet . It’s heartbreaking, he lives in Florida, I live in Texas, I tried to get him to come live nearby in a senior facility about five years ago, and ultimately he refused.
He’s still sharpen enough to function, but lost regarding anything technical that he’s not already familiar with. He’s also still mobile but not very without oxygen, and while he knows what he should do, move to a senior center that can provide assisted-living, he keeps rebelling regarding this idea. Me and my brother are encouraging him to move to one of the many places he’s toured in the past, and he just can’t decide that it’s bad enough that he should. He understands the logic of the advantage of making this change on his terms, versus being forced into something less desirable, yet he can’t seem to make a decision other than to maintain the status quo as his health deteriorates.
Anyway, my brother, who now lives in Alaska is flying down there to go over financial records and hopefully talk him into taking the step towards the assisted-living. My plan is to go over there after, I’m hoping that he can make a decision so when I do come, I can physically help him with anything that he needs help with. The bad thing is he’s alone, I can stay there for a week but then I’ll be headed home. If I see a move on his part to transition into assisted-living, I could stay longer to help with that .
I remember @Scepticalscribe discussing this while back in regards to her mother, but not in the terms I’m using, more elegant.
What brought this on? I’m currently providing moral support to my 96-year-old father who seems to be slipping fast, but not fast enough, at least not from his perspective. In his words, if I wasn’t such a coward, I’d go out back and eat a bullet . It’s heartbreaking, he lives in Florida, I live in Texas, I tried to get him to come live nearby in a senior facility about five years ago, and ultimately he refused.
He’s still sharpen enough to function, but lost regarding anything technical that he’s not already familiar with. He’s also still mobile but not very without oxygen, and while he knows what he should do, move to a senior center that can provide assisted-living, he keeps rebelling regarding this idea. Me and my brother are encouraging him to move to one of the many places he’s toured in the past, and he just can’t decide that it’s bad enough that he should. He understands the logic of the advantage of making this change on his terms, versus being forced into something less desirable, yet he can’t seem to make a decision other than to maintain the status quo as his health deteriorates.
Anyway, my brother, who now lives in Alaska is flying down there to go over financial records and hopefully talk him into taking the step towards the assisted-living. My plan is to go over there after, I’m hoping that he can make a decision so when I do come, I can physically help him with anything that he needs help with. The bad thing is he’s alone, I can stay there for a week but then I’ll be headed home. If I see a move on his part to transition into assisted-living, I could stay longer to help with that .
I remember @Scepticalscribe discussing this while back in regards to her mother, but not in the terms I’m using, more elegant.