Wide angle lenses expand the depth separation of objects relative to what the human eye sees. Telephoto lenses compress them. A "neutral" lens on a full-frame camera is ~50 mm. Less gives a wider angle, while more gives a more telephoto view.
Using the iPhone 14 Pro/Max as an example: The main lens on this phone has a "24 mm equivalent" focal length, i.e., it gives the same perspective as a 24 mm lens on a full-frame camera, which is definitely in wide-angle territory, and is thus going to expand the depth separation, which is what you are seeing. The phone's telephoto lens is a 77 mm equivalent, which is going to somewhat compress the perspective. So what you need is a Golidlocks middle, which it doesn't appear you're going to get on the iPhone. But the tele lens probably comes closer to neutral than the main lens