45% of Men Age 18–25 Have Never Approached A Woman in Person

[Eric]

Interesting stat and a sign of the times I guess. While most of us grew up in a world where you needed to physically call or talk to a woman in person, kids have it a lot easier today with a swipe or hiding behind a digital device.

 

[rdrr]

Interesting stat and a sign of the times I guess. While most of us grew up in a world where you needed to physically call or talk to a woman in person, kids have it a lot easier today with a swipe or hiding behind a digital device.

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But do they slide into their DMs?

 

[Herdfan]

I have embarrassed the offspring (F24) multiple times simply because I will walk up and talk to strangers. It could be about anything but that concept is completely foreign to her.

We were at an exhibit somewhere and Utkarsh Ambudkar (Donald from Pitch Perfect) was there and she noticed him, but would not go ask for a pic. So I did. Looking at it her face is red from embarrassment. LOL.

But she was also the kid who we couldn’t drop at the door of a restaurant to go put our name in, yet with no notice or prep would grab a mic and sing the National Anthem in front of 500 people and not blink and eye.

 

[throAU]

In my experience in the past decade or so - if you have the guts to actually talk to a woman in a genuine non-creepy way, and said woman is not trash, you have a pretty great chance of positive outcome.

I mean I'm not a model/rock-star/etc. but my odds in that time frame are 100%, and due to putting myself in social situations have actually been approached in that way by the woman.

Key things being:
go outside
socialise
don't make it a mission to "pick up"
treat other people like human beings rather than trophies


it's not difficult.

 

[rdrr]

In my experience in the past decade or so - if you have the guts to actually talk to a woman in a genuine non-creepy way, and said woman is not trash, you have a pretty great chance of positive outcome.

I mean I'm not a model/rock-star/etc. but my odds in that time frame are 100%, and due to putting myself in social situations have actually been approached in that way by the woman.

Key things being:
go outside
socialise
don't make it a mission to "pick up"
treat other people like human beings rather than trophies


it's not difficult.

The problem is what is considered creepy these days, and context matters.

A way to old guy talking to a young woman, then yes... My rule of thumb is half your age + 10 years is the cut off.
Approaching a woman at a bar? Its a crapshoot, and definitely is all based on the context. I mean sometimes a single woman will put up "leave me the f alone" flags, like reading a book.

 

[ArgoDuck]

… My rule of thumb is half your age + 10 years is the cut off.

As a 10 year old I definitely refused to date anyone under 15…

 

[rdrr]

As a 10 year old I definitely refused to date anyone under 15…

Should have stated that it only works starting at 20 and starts to fall apart around 65. So it kinda excludes people like Bill Belichick age 72, but still would qualify his current girlfriend age 24 as a level 10 Creey factor. Even so I kinda think 46 (half 72 + 10) is still to young for a 72 year old.

 

[Nycturne]

As a 10 year old I definitely refused to date anyone under 15…

And with this, we have confirmation that a 10 year old has higher standards than some priests.

 

[throAU]

The problem is what is considered creepy these days, and context matters.

A way to old guy talking to a young woman, then yes... My rule of thumb is half your age + 10 years is the cut off.
Approaching a woman at a bar? Its a crapshoot, and definitely is all based on the context. I mean sometimes a single woman will put up "leave me the f alone" flags, like reading a book.

Of course. But you can initiate conversation that isn’t just “hey nice shoes wanna fuck” etc.

And if you get bad vibes. That’s it. She’s not interested. Be polite. Move on. Don’t force it.



I’ll also note that I didn’t ask any of these women until seeing them out and about multiple times, chatting in a group with them, etc.

Not picking them off while they’re alone. Not as soon as meeting, etc.

That shit is creepy.

 

[Herdfan]

Of course. But you can initiate conversation that isn’t just “hey nice shoes wanna fuck” etc.

I wonder if Tinder has taken most of that behavior online. If you are just wanting a hookup, then why waste time and money at a bar/nightclub and have nothing to show for it at 2am.

But then again, I was never the bar pickup person. I would need zero hands to count the number of times I hooked up with someone I just met that night at a bar. But also during the time in my life when I would have been all in on that, I usually had a serious girlfriend.