I'm entirely in agreement with
@yaxomoxay on this subject.
Just because race is the most toxic source of identity and division - political, social, cultural (not to mention legal, and economic) in the US (and was one of the major causes of your Civil War) - and one that continues to tear your country and culture apart - does not mean that this exact experience is replicated in Europe. Because, it isn't.
Yes, race - and racism - exists, but not everything is viewed through the toxic prism, or filter, or lens, of race, as it is in the US. In fact, in Europe, I would argue that social class is a more salient, and enduring division, than race, although the two intersect and overlap at times.
Please stop viewing everything through an American prism, and allowing this American exceptionalism to shape your understanding of what is happening in Europe.
And, this is a subject on which I would like to hear from some female people of colour, for the female perspective may be a bit more nuanced.
And yes, Ukraine is in Europe, a sophisticated and cultured society; Kyiv is a beautiful city - I've worked there.
Of course you identify more closely with cultures that resemble yours, especially if yours is an advanced culture, and is a sort of standard which much of the world aspires to.
And, of course you can identify with "people like you" especially if they are from a country that wasn't war ravaged just over a week ago.
I have been told, to my face (via interpreters and translators) - in refugee camps, in Georgia, which I visited, in an official capacity, when working with the EU, and in a refugee camp, in Bosnia, shortly after the war, in 1997 when I was running (my mandate meant I ran the elections working with the locals, not merely observed them) elections - we were ensuring that people living there were registered to vote and were able to vote - I was told: "I used to be just like you; once I had a home, a good job, a nice car, a foreign holiday every year, " and that is the point: It is precisely because they "used to be just like me" that one can relate to them in a more powerful way.
And that does bring home forcefully - in a way that wars in countries that are dysfunctional, and repressive (and have always been) do not, because you cannot conceive of ever living there, or wanting to live there, or ever wanting any part of their political culture even if you do explore elements of their actual culture - that progress is not inevitable, and nor is it linear, that worlds and cultures can collapse and be destroyed just as easily as they were created. You can identify with, relate to, someone fleeing a war in Europe - precisely because it is a world and culture with which you are familiar - a lot more easily than someone flleeing a war in a country that was always violent, unstable, and repressive.
Our world - in Europe - is normally so safe, and secure, that we don't do war. The war in Yugosavia was a profound shock to me - I did not expect to see a war in Europe in my life time. And the war in Ukraine is an even greater shock.
In any case, I come from a country where the police aren't armed, let alone the population, and the population do not view the right to bear arms as a basic right anywhere in Europe; unlike the US, our societies aren't fundamentally violent, which makes war - when it happens - all the more profoundly shocking.